Wife. Mother. Veteran. Foster Carer. Coffee Lover.
Fostering Kingdoms grew out of lived experience, out of seasons of fostering that were deeply meaningful, deeply complex, and often carried quietly. Fostering Kingdoms is a faith-based support space for UK foster carers seeking steadiness, growth, and sustainable leadership.
My name is Jess. I’m a foster carer, wife, and mum. Before fostering, I served in the Army, a role that shaped my understanding of responsibility, structure, and leadership, but also taught me the cost of carrying weight without always being seen.
I also had to learn how to parent and work through the hardship of being hundreds of miles away from friends and family, at the time not understanding how the struggle would encourage others but as I support young mums who have to move away from family, I finally understand why God opened doors for me all those years ago.
Fostering brought a different kind of responsibility and new doors that have been opened.
I have found new responsibility that requires advocacy, discernment, emotional regulation, and the willingness to make decisions that don’t always come with affirmation or clarity. Over time, I've noticed how often foster carers are expected to be strong, capable, and compliant while carrying grief, pressure, faith questions, and moral weight beneath the surface.
Fostering Kingdoms exists because I know how isolating that can feel.
To carry so much, and not feel seen or heard.
I’ve often advocated for children when it wasn’t easy or convenient sometimes knowing the cost would land with me personally. Children don’t have the capacity to assess risk or advocate for their own long-term safety, so adults must stand in that gap with clarity and courage.
That kind of advocacy can be misunderstood.
It can be labelled as “difficult.”
It can cost relationships.
It can leave carers carrying decisions alone.
This space was created to name those realities not to criticise systems or people but to support carers in staying grounded, faithful, and whole while doing what is right.
My faith is not something I perform or present as an answer.
It’s what has kept me grounded when outcomes were uncertain, when decisions were costly, and when the work felt heavier than I expected.
I believe faith isn’t about having certainty or control but it is about presence. About returning to God when the path isn’t clear, when grief sits close, and when obedience costs more than comfort.
Faith, for me, has been less about striving and more about staying.
This space is designed to offer foster carers:
language for experiences that are often unnamed
reassurance that they are not failing because things feel hard
permission to grow without pressure
faith-based grounding that doesn’t demand performance
a sense of being seen and understood
This isn’t a space for quick fixes or loud answers.
It’s a place to slow down, reflect, and continue the journey with greater awareness and care.
You don’t need to agree with everything here.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.
And you don’t need to be in a particular season to belong.
If you’re carrying the weight of fostering whether quietly or loudly, you are welcome here.